You can’t compete where you do not compare.





I think it’s really hard to not compare yourself to others  when social media makes it so easy make it feel like you are competing  with your peers, friends, etc.



JaeltheGreat said:

““Don’t compete with one another. Sharpen one another.”


I’m not your competition. I’m not your rival understand this. -Caitlin

I will believe being at the number 1 Historically Black College for the last 7 years in a row it makes you feel like you aren’t doing enough, you are not involved  in the extracurricular activities like you should be. It just feels like you need to be doing more all the time.

Much love to Eva,

Jael also said that, “Confidence will get you through anything in life.
You being confident in yourself allows you to move forward in your life.”

And that’s real I can see that in my own life as I watched one of very good friends,Erin get accepted into Senior Seminar Research program (which is really selective) and got inducted into Psi Chi (Psychology Honor Society) within the span of what felt like JUST 1 week. I have came to the conclusion that it was all possible because of her sacrifice, determination, will, a great support system,and HER MINDSET.


She was confident in her abilities. And I admire my good friend for this quality.She understands that for success to occur one must make sacrifices. But please understand it was not easy, but she did it, because she knew she could. I love her so much for that.



I believe the following things are important for me to say:

  • I know it’s hard but we all must work hard for the things we want in our lives. Something that is of value doesn’t get obtained without effort and sacrifice.


  • You can never take a break from yourself. You cannot get away from yourself. So you might as well love yourself.



You must work in your gift work through your purpose.

JaeltheGreat  also said, :

“You are perfect for your purpose.” Find your purpose. Ask your self what makes you happy? What waters your soul?

  • don’t ever dim your light for anyone. To those who cannot handle your light then oh well..
  • If people start hating on you just understand that is just apart of the process to you leveling up.

“Whole people heal people.” Broken people break others down.”

“Don’t focus on the negative. Only accept the words that have came to water you!”


Understand that in order for elevation to occur separation must occur first!

You are doing something right hunny when they start hating on you. Tell dem haters you said thank you ;).

I speak alto  on having to let go of friends and people of love so that I may  be able to elevate myself.

I recommend to read the following  posts to read:

  1. not diming your light just so someone else can shine
  2. letting the toxins within your life go.
  3. Bruised, not broken. 
  4. no more allowing people to take their plate and leaving.
  5. seasons change and so do your friends.

Think about it like think  this:

Imagine you having to run up 4 flights of stairs and you have all these bags you are carrying with you. The baggage you are carrying begins to impede on your success of running when you have reached the 2nd flight of stairs out of the 4.

You must let that baggage go.What ever weighs you down. What ever does not water your growth. Whatever that does not feed you. drop it.

Word to Ms.Eyrkah Badu… side note I’m putting it in the universe that you will receive this and receive this love ❤

Much love to:

Like a house that is built with a bad and unstable foundation we must:

What ever makes you feel drained. What ever that makes you unstable. drop it. destroy it.

Like if you address an issue you have found to be problematic in ANY of your relationships and that person is unwilling to make a decision to change. Then you must make the decision to change. Cause you cannot change others, you can only change yourself.


God gave you your light.Walk in your light with purpose. Walk with your purpose. Live for yourself. Be yourself.

Make it a habitual then as you get use to it make it a intentional action to love yourself.

When you do this, things becomes easier with time.


🎬 “The Skin I’m In”

A documentary by CAU 2020 student, Trejhaun Dueberry featuring myself and some other lovely ladies of Clark Atlanta University!

So what is the documentary all about?

This project is about:

  • “black girls as it pertains to self love, confidence, and self esteem.”
  • “your blackness when you were juxtaposed to now.”
  • the relationship, “between black women on the upliftment and competition side of things. “
  • The defintion of what being a black woman meant to us and how it made us feel indivdiually.
  • experiences and even issues with  have faced because our complextion.
  • We mention any biases we have.

I hold the bias that a large amount of black men donot support black women. Nor do they respect black women.

Like I mention how in our day in age black women struggle to have the support from many black men and how because we don’t have their support to the world this lack of support from them translates to a lack of respect for the black women.

  • In short, “The Skin I’m In”, is a short film about the growth of a small group black women, ( women that are within the Atlanta University Center, from insitutions such as Spelman College and Clark Atlanta University). And how over time how we, as being women and being black, have coped and learned while being on our own paths that lead to the road of self love.


“An inside look into the minds, remembrances, and inner thoughts of young Black women on the topics of their childhood, self esteem, their journey to self love, and coming to terms with the skin they are in”

If you didn’t make it to the showing at Clark Atlanta University  I have attatched a YouTube below for the documentary

The documentary placed in the top 16 out of 127 other the films!!!! 

It’s about 5 mins short. See it below :).


Sending much love and hope you all are well.

-Caitlin 💗




BLACK representation in the media✨ Why is it important? 

Being born in the late 90’s, I watched on the television how black people were shown in positive light in t.v shows, movies, and even in the music industry. The effect of so many black people displayed on the t.v screens empowered a generation to dream of their own future and possibilities! Just to give you an idea of what this black representation looked like in the late 90’s here is a list of some really good shows and movies.

T.V Shows like:

  1. Martin
  2. Living Single
  3. A Different World 
  4. Girlfriends 
  5. Sister, Sister
  6. The Jamie Foxx Show 
  7. The Wayans Bros.
  8. Moesha (my personal fav!)
  9. The Bernie Mac Show Movies like:
  1. Hav Plenty (1997)
  2. Waiting to Exhale (1995)
  3. Higher Learning (1995)
  4. Poetic Justice (1993)
  5. Friday (1995)
  6. Boyz n the Hood (1991)

My lists can go on forever but you guys get the point! ☺️

⚡️Now let’s get down to the importance of these people in their roles.

The effect of watching all these black stars rather they were actors, or  actress, or even dancers , inspired generations today to dream and achieve. Before the era where black people held positive roles within the media. The stereotype that comes from the creation of the dominant culture , (WHITE PEOPLE), held and beloved about black people being uneducated, ugly, humorless, inaquadte etc,. BASICALLY the dominant culture – or the one culture that was (and still is) in control of the contrsuction of knowledge ( social media platforms, tv networks, radio, and newspapers),wants you to believe that your blackness is evil and can do no good deed.

Obviously we know this belief held by whites is clearly not true nor can it be supported.

(🌪: do you think this belief can be supported? Tweet me using hashtag #naturalloveblog or ask a question in the comments)

These films and t.v shows allowed for black people to express themselves and reject the racial identity about themselves and people of color. Or in better words like the pop magazine,Complex, says:

“Black sitcoms were largely dormant until the ’70s, then finally hitting a stride in the ’80s. In the ’90s, that stride became a sprint, with networks scrambling to reach black audiences. This coincided with a celebration of black culture, as Afrocentrism was embraced by hip-hop and it became commonplace to see Malcolm X hats and Howard University sweatshirts in music videos and in the streets. It felt like the perfect marriage of African-American culture and popular culture.”

Personally to me black representation within film and broadcasting have decreased in comparison with the large and dominant presence held during the early 90’s to the mid-early 20’s.I hope our generation we can change that in order to empowerment the children of our future!
🎟 :watch me show love to some of my peers within the AUC- Atlanta University Center that attend such schools like

Spelman College

Morehouse College

And Clark Atlanta University

🎤: tell me your thoughts @caitlincakn using the hashtag #naturalloveblog

Much love and peace!